| Dear Compassionate Friends:
![]() We also shared that we all had seemingly "crazy" thoughts and were convinced that we were losing our minds. It was so comforting to go to a meeting, share these "crazy" feelings and others in the group would nod their heads and say "I felt like that too!" Nowhere else could we express these feelings and have the understanding and acceptance we needed so desperately. Nowhere else could we express our pain and laugh and cry over hurtful comments well-meaning "the others" (as one dear member refers to non-bereaved or non-understanding people) had made to us. Many of us cried so hard and felt such pain we swore we would never go back again. Somehow the next month, and the next and next we blindly made our way back. Maybe now "the others" were suggesting it was time to "move on" or "get over it", and we were so NOT ready to move on. Now the group was so helpful in providing suggestions how to preserve memories of your child, how to grieve as a family or allow your spouse to grieve in their own way, how to help your surviving children express their grief at losing their sibling, and how to educate "the others" of our community as to our special needs. Maybe now the holidays or a special occasion in your family was approaching, and we were in real distress over how we would make it through those days without falling apart. Again, our Friends were there for us, with helpful suggestions or just listening. We all shared that this group made the difference and kept us from falling apart. Grieving and healing can be a long journey we all must go through, but because someone was there for us, then we are there for another now. WE NEED NOT WALK ALONE on this journey to healing. I wish you comfort and healing, and many helpful hands and hearts to guide you along the path of healing. In friendship, ![]() |