"Who, then, can so softly bind
up the wound of another, as he, who has felt the same wound himself."
— Thomas Jefferson
"The secret of The Compassionate
Friends' success is simple: There is no line between being a
helper and being helped. In the early months of peoples'
membership in TCF, it seems that most of the time is spent absorbing
ideas, crying and letting the grief flow, and 'learning the ropes' of
being a bereaved parent. The next step is reaching out to others
and helping them. It is not a big step, for listening to another
person sort out his life helps us to sort out our lives, too. But
it is an important step, because it is the first point at which the
movement is reversed. All the energy had been going inward.
We had been feeling so empty inside that we kept withdrawing into
ourselves. But at the point when we turn around is the point when
we first listen to another, speak the words of comfort and hope, share
our pain instead of just feeling our pain. At that time the real
healing has started."
— Dennis Klass, Ph.D.
"Bereavment is a darkness impenetrable to the imagination of the unbereaved."
— Iris Murdoch
"Tears are sometimes an
inappropriate response to death. When a life has been lived completely
honestly, completely successfully, or just completely, the correct
response to death's perfect punctuation mark is a smile."
— Julie Burchill
"When you are sorrowful, look
again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping
for that which has been your delight."
— Kahlil Gibran
"He spake well who said that
graves are the footprints of angels."
— Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
"Perhaps they are not the stars,
but rather openings in Heaven where the love of our lost ones pours
through and shines down upon us to let us know they are happy."
— Author Unknown
"The pain passes, but the beauty
— Pierre Auguste
In three words I can sum up
everything I've learned about life: it goes on."
— Robert Frost
"I believe that imagination is
stronger than knowledge—myth is more potent than history—dreams are
more powerful than facts—hope always triumphs over experience—laughter
is the cure for grief—love is stronger than death."
— Robert Fulghum
"Our sweetest songs are those
that tell of saddest thought."
— Percy Bysshe Shelley
"There is a sacredness in tears.
They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more
eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are messengers of
overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love."
— Washington Irving
"Flowers are the spirits of
children whose footsteps have passed from the earth, but reappear each
year to gladden the pathway of those now living."
— Cowlitz legend
"After the death of a child, it
becomes crystal clear. We humans are capable of enduring much more than
we can ever imagine. Knowing that doesn't make grief one bit easier.
The painful truth is that we simply do what we must do. We do the
unthinkable—day after day."
— Carol Clum
"Hearts will never be practical
until they can be made unbreakable."
— The Wizard of Oz